Why do certain family members engender the same reactions in you over and over? It is all programming, and the ego thrives on it. Would you like to change? Would you like to change to a more positive, loving state of mind with those you love? See them as your friends do … those friends who did not live through the ups and downs you experienced with those who push your buttons. They have no history or herstory with your family. If you can rid yourself of the stories and simply enjoy them in the now as others do, you will see another side of them and feel a more loving side of you: the soul, which chose your family for the growth they afford you. Without the stories, you are all One Soul. Find that in your family members and find peace.
Wow! so true! I just returned from a family and friends vacation with 20 people!
Now that I look back at the week with all of them…I am really blessed with Love from each and every one of their actions and conversations…thank you
Yes, my (cultural family) has been the biggest relationship challenge in my life. Especially my brother, who continually criticizes me, esp how I look “you aren’t like us,” “you don’t look like us, you are fat”. I have investigated origins of his comments, and have some understanding of it;as much as I can find. last summer I wrote him a love letter, telling him of all the things I love about him (which gave ME a different focus, myself, as I was not addressing his criticisms.)I think he was shocked, called to tell me he read it, it was”well written” and “very touching”..And a little boy voice at the end said “I love you”: It is a long story.I won’t tell it here
The power of love is limitless, and as you saw, it’s right there inside of you and even those who don’t see it, but lash out instead. Just keep being love.