You may pray and pray and pray for a miracle for yourself or another. Understand: the soul makes the decision whether to stay or go, be healed or not. Prayers most definitely make a difference. The love that is sent in the act of prayer is like a balm. The sense of connection is received with gratitude and joy, but decisions are made at a far higher level than within the human story. Is that not what prayer is? Acknowledging a higher level and knowing deep within you that all is connected? When prayers are not answered, it is not a punishment, simply a choice made from a level where a different perspective is known.
You are so very loved.