Always go to the heart. Before you speak, before you write, before you respond. That momentary pause will make such a difference for you and the other on the receiving end of what you say, write, or do. Without that pause to get out of the defensive or offensive posture, you will very likely respond in human mode. Yes, you are human, but you are also a soul who has the bigger picture, who knows all is connected. Pause. Slide awareness into the heart area and check motives and defenses. When all soul systems are go, then go for it, now laced with awareness. Oh, what a difference you make.
You are so very loved.
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This is excellent counsel. I wish that I automatically could always go to the heart without thinking about it. I usually regret when my go to response is from the head first. Diving in head first gets me into trouble and then its too late.
A clear intention to retrain the self truly works. Little reminders keep one on track!
If most things are illusory in our life what remains when all the illusion falls away when we die ? I would say all that remains is LOVE. Am I right or wrong ? This is absolute and never passes away. But LOVE is not the person we loved so where are they ? They are LOVE and so are we.
That’s right – and we don’t have to die to access this Love. It is always here.
LlOVE is the most important and vital element of every life. From the moment we are born we are needing and seeking LOVE. It is the foundation of our entire life. A child who never has it will be a completely disfunctional adult person. So LOVE is everything. There is a well known bible quote. Can’t give exact line. I’m sure you’d know it. We may have everything but without LOVE we are nothing.
Thank you. I needed that.
Ah. So simple but I have been missing this piece of info. Thank you Suzanne.
I needed this .I hope that I remember that I do want to retrain myself to pause when I feel hurt and start to react from a place of self defense. It is so easy to become self -defensive and most often that is jarring to a relationship and not helpful in any way.