It is not a zero-sum game. There is not “only so much love to go around.” All is love—the connective tissue from which everything arises. You can give and give and give and no one ever runs out. If you forget who you are and do not give love to another you do not lose points, yet you do not experience the joy of sharing and giving. This is a detractor but not a subtractor. Do not keep score. Judge how you are playing the game by all others learning to love as a result of you being here. How does that feel? Utopian, perhaps, yet it is possible as all set aside the winner and loser mentality and realize it is not about winning, but rising together.
You are so very loved.
I put a call into our mobile veterinarian for my Nelly. She’s clearly uncomfortable. I can’t keep her here any longer in this doggie body. I think it’s no coincidence this picture with air balloons and a lighthouse again. Setting my girl free is the most loving thing to do right now. I often say like Suzanne has said of her Nellie, “Just be like Nellie”… my Nelly has been the most loving and compassion animal I’ve had the experience of loving. I will miss her physical presence, but I’ll know she will be free.
Surrounding you with so much love as we celebrate Nelly and affirm that her beautiful soul is well.
These words are like a gentle life giving rain falling into the open hearts of the earthen vessels that we are!
Remembering times when, my aims were not all that pure, but resigning to place my aims only secondary to my aim toward pureness, are the times that i am able to respect myself, and to feel love in that higher state, regardless of not achieving secondary aims. Many lessons were learned, while surprising amounts of love and patience were all achieved simply by sharing love. Now i know what is possible in any situation.
Yes! The zero sum game is not a healthy paradigm. Yet we practice it and reinforce it every day in the ways our culture defines play, work, and other forms of social interaction. We teach this paradigm to our children and are confused by the aggression and separation that results. One response to this is the concept of the cooperative game, which my website is dedicated to. See CooperativeGames.com. In cooperative games, we learn the joys and productivity of the win-win way. My recent book helps educators with this. See Cooperative Games in Education, Building Community Without Competition PreK-12. The book is peer reviewed, research-based and published by Teachers College Press. https://www.tcpress.com/cooperative-games-in-education-9780807766668
Dear Suzanne. I don’t know if you ever read this comment ( due to so many others) but I just want to tell you that I feel so connected to you. Also I had a couple of times dreams about you, very nice ones and I felt great when I woke up. So did I yesterday. I watched a podcast and it was so touching that it got to me deeply. All my love and blessings
Brigitte ( Reading PA) ❤️
Thank you so much, Brigitte. I appreciate your loving sentiments!
Please tell me when I give give and give especially to my family, I receive nothing back.
I feel so used, emotionally devastated and a sucker.
I naturally am a giver, but I have found in my life strangely people only take.
I have often wondered why this happens to me.
Lately I have stopped giving . I have done this to protect my self respect.
Please respond with some helpful answer.
I feel so lost on this matter.
Thank you so very much.
Give love simply because that’s what the soul does. Do not give other things to the point of imbalance. May your love be enough.
What a strange lot we have become that brings us to thinking that love has its limits. It is our willingness that has its limits.
And no one but ourselves has to come to terms with the/our decision to limit ourselves from others.
When we face that resulting reality, it is however an excellent way to gage the depth of our commitment toward the sincere loving of humanity …and that which brought about our own hindrances and progress.
So… let’s look at that, see it for what it actually is. You will not be surprised to find that you already know how to change to improve that. But you already know that too.
I am presently in a space through which i am attempting and making various efforts to come to deeper understandings regarding “self” in relation to the “whole”. It is truly very time consuming and days seem unbearably short. Plus the efforts are exhausting, thereby naps are required, clutching more time from the day.
However, the need is to take an outside view of how I’m “playing the game”. That is a powerful exercise which ego definitely wants to interfere, but actually can’t if it done correctly.