When you meet one who is different than you, instead of turning away, be curious. There is a soul under those differences. There is a soul within you. It is the “I” who speaks when you are feeling no fear. It is the “I” free of conditioning. Unconditioned behavior leads to unconditional love. What you are sensing in another who you may be judging is the story, not the soul. Were you to sense the soul there would be attraction … an instant inner smile of recognition. Be curious about your reaction as restriction. Now dive deeper. In this way does conditioning go away. You are so very loved.
I lean on the law if attraction, likely too much so. Perhaps it seems an obvious way to relate and communicate. Sure, it might be… “MIGHT”, being the operative word. It could just as easy “go south” if the attraction is unrequited.
Yet, what is also obvious is that on “others” i MUST HAVE made some kind of JUDGEMENT, even though i don’t know the other, AND I have yet to communicate toward those to whom i am not attracted other than to communicate the lack of desire to open lines of communication and denying myself (and them) the opportunity of being a Loving person. And THAT ALWAYS “GOES SOUTH”.
I know we all do this to some degree, however, it is not the degree that is important. It IS the soul of “the other” and the soul of self THAT matters.