Unfinished business. If there is someone you cannot forget about, then there is likely an energetic exchange that has not come full circle. Do you owe them something? Perhaps forgiveness, perhaps a thank you? Forgiveness does not condone actions, it cuts the cord that is attaching you to them energetically. Set yourselves free by finishing the interaction, whatever it was, no matter who was wrong or right. You are beings in flow. Restore the flow and now you can grow.
You are so very loved.
I’m having a really hard time with this post. Anyone else feeling this way? Of course, we all want the emotional freedom … if only it was that easy! PTSD is a condition that statistically lasts as long as one lives! The effects of trauma are detectable on the brain scans! If only one could go back to the “before” – before their life was ruined for ever by another human being! How do you restore your innocence and faith in goodness in others? How is that you with the broken hard “owe” them – forgiveness? Why do victims always need to work harder than those who victimized them?
Anyone who has found the option of forgiveness an absurdity has felt what you speak of. Many, if not all of us have, at some point, felt that way. Thing is though, you don’t have to stay feeling that way. Forgiveness is an odd existence only at first. BUT….
The questions you ask are answered when your intent and actions are IN the journey OF forgiveness. The answers are IN the process. And no, it does not mean forgiving condones your actions or that of another. Forgiveness will open doors that enable you to REAL-EYES the IGNORANCE ON the part of the whole you and ‘the whole other’ that actually were only partially experienced… and ..from that, you will no longer feel the need or desire for vengeance, nor have the need or desire for the judgement that repeatedly returned you (YOU!) to the points of harm …for no good benefit has yet come from the same repetitive returns. THOSE returns have blocked your way out of the maze. Judgement has clouded not only your reality but also that of another. Furthermore – What has that harm taught you about yourself?
We simply chose to forget that we do not know the reality in which ´the other’ lives and we experienced ´the other’ from momentary ´time frames’ that felt abhorrent to us. So – you have learned what abhorrence feels like; you have learned that you did not, could not, or would not control the actions of ‘the other’ by actions you took. And, –
With forgiveness, you know if, or not, you are holding responsibility. These are but a few of the benefits forgiveness offers.
Essentially, forgiveness naturally teaches you why and how to stay out of the maze and repetition, so that you may carry on to walk in the light of today.
A victim works no harder than a perpetrator. They each choose to work on their side of the coin, or not. In a sense there is no rule that says you MUST forgive, but there is a law of nature that deems forgiveness as THE road that leads to one’s well being thereby, wholeness. So, choose forgiveness or don’t… but it is your being, it is of your/the choices that makes you feel or remain the victim OR… one who opts to be a free-flowing, growing soul.
But you will not see, nor perceive these and other benefits in any way unless you ARE in the process and answers come in stages of your/our development. Even just asking about forgiveness IS part of the process.
Keep asking. Keep seeking.