You know about dancing with a partner. You say that one leads and the other follows, when in fact, they move as one. There is an attunement that takes place for them to flow about the dance floor with grace and ease. If they do not tune into each other’s intention and moves, why then, you know what happens. They step on each other’s toes and perhaps even stumble. Need we say more? May you and your numerous partners in this dance of life tune into each other step by step and flow with ease.
You are so very loved.
We often think there is so much to learn from those marriages and relationships that last and last even though we dont really know what that relationship entails that keeps it strong. Sure, sometimes it is love, or LOVE, but other times not.
One can only do their best at being a loving, person. And if the partner doesn’t understand that in you or from you… you need guidance from your loved one AND from “above” to stay afloat in your heart. Even at that, you will have hurdles together so the dance becomes the Loving of give and take of cooperation. It IS beautiful to watch couples dance so well together. That maybe took a lot of practice but for some it all starts so smoothly.
There’s a lot that has happened, before the dance started and more to come. A partner might shift a concept midstream, without discussion, out of assuming the other will just KNOW. Assumptions far too often become stumbling blocks. The awkwardness of the dance becomes distressing when communication lacks required info to provide access to shared awareness. Instability raises its voice. Sadness sets in. Deep concerns develop. A lot of Love is needed to find the source where the issues start, where the timing of the dance went askew. That too is part n parcel of relationships.
And as to children in particular, one of the most brilliant reminders i once heard, was (to the affect saying): “In the really big picture, most parents are little more than children themselves when they start their families.” All the more reason to let the dance be a nature of love, rather than a master of rules. Love has so much more to offer than rules. Even children live to dance in step. They follow love, when they love what they follow. It is not the imitation of elders that makes us happy when we see their efforts to make the steps so wild n free be they “in time” or not. – it is not an imitation they are showing. It is their love revealing itself. They are the professional dancers …until they aren’t. Then it is up to them, to relearn the dance with all kinds of new partners, learning many ways to love.
That’s us. We are relearning as if learning anew.