A door is stuck, and so you push.  You exert greater and greater force until it pops loose, and you almost fall forward.  Why the force?  This is what you have been taught to do:  push harder.  And it works with physical things, but does it work when interacting with others?  At times, of course, but the results may not be what you wish.  You may fall on your face.  There is a better way than pushing when it comes to love.  Just be, and allow insights to flow like water so that when you act on the insights you, too, flow easily around and over the obstacles.  You are so very loved.