What triggers you may have no effect on another. Why is this? For you all have unique experiences. Even two people going through the same thing will experience it uniquely based upon factors too many to enunciate here.  Do not assume that others react as you do in all cases. Practice flexibility of viewpoint if you wish to truly understand another. Get out of your story and into their own. Ah, true, you cannot know all of their story, so why not go, then, to the place where you are both beyond the story? Were you to do this, why, then, we dare say you would truly come to understand connection.  Love equals lack of separation, which is why we say so often, you are so very loved.